Are You Tired of Trying to Appear Like a Perfect Mom, When Really, You Feel Like You Can Barely Keep it Together Some Days?
I never thought being a Mom was going to be like this. It’s hard.
Where’s the bliss? The ongoing joy and happiness? Where are my well-behaved, sleeping-through-the-night, always polite kids?
Motherhood is hard. And beautiful. And wonderful. And lovely.
But let’s be honest about it: it’s really freakin’ hard most days.
And that would be okay, if…..other women actually talked about it. Openly. Honestly. Exposing the tough stuff about being a Momma, and supported each other in this journey.
But they’re not.
So many women are so afraid to appear ‘less than’, flawed and imperfect.
I started hearing stories of moms staying up most of the night to finish baking cupcakes for their kid’s class the next day.
I started hearing other moms compare their kids and babies to others: “My little Johnny is in the 90% percentile!” “Your baby’s not crawling yet? Jordan did at 6 months.” “Aren’t you worried that he’s not talking yet?”
It made me sick to my stomach.
It didn’t feel like this was like it was supposed to be as a Mom.
And I didn’t feel like I belonged in any of this.
So I decided to do something about it. And this, is where the vision of Mom at 41 came from.
Mom at 41 is about Acceptance, Support and Community for Moms Everywhere.
Mom at 41 is a place to feel loved, guided, and inspired to be honest, real, and transparent about your Momma challenges.
And to have a Community of women just like you, to be there every step of the way.
Simply fill in your email below to to join our Mom and 41 Family and get our Newsletter 1-2 times per week with stories, support and inspiration to help you through those tough Momma days. You’re not alone in this journey of Motherhood….let me help you!
So how did I get here?
I’m Dr. Karen Osburn, and I’ve been writing a blog for the last 2 years on my Chiropractic website. Many of the blogs have been about my challenges as a Mom, my journey of becoming a mom after 7 years of struggling with infertility, and finally becoming a Mom through Adoption.
I’ve written almost 200 blogs, and the ones I’ve written on parenting and being a Mom were, hands down, the ones that spurred the most comments, emails, likes and shares.
Here’s what people have said about my blogs:
“I stumbled across your post tonight and boy did I need it. I have really been wondering where society has got this idea that as mothers if we speak out about the hard then we are not enough or we are doing it wrong. I had a very hard day and probably handled a multitude of things the wrong way. So it had great to read your post tonight.”-Bonnie
“Beautiful post, and as always, perfect timing. I had a “broken open” moment the other day, where I was seriously questioning my mental health + ability to parent (yet again). Thank you for reminding me that sometimes life is just hard, not because I’m doing it wrong, but because it is.”-Timmie
“Karen, I love reading your blog, and the one you posted about your new son, brought happy tears to my eye!”-Kerri
“Heartfelt and vulnerable sharing! Thank you for letting us into your heart and life Dr, Karen! Appreciate you.”-Patricia
“Hello Karen, thank you so much for sharing your experiences. We are also adoptive parents of our beautiful John and understand so much of what you write.”-Darcie
“Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can’t even imagine going through all of that. Just reading it gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes!” -Jacqueline
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Seven years. That’s how long I waited to become a Mom.
Seven very difficult, shameful, and painful years during which my husband Ed and I so desperately wanted to become parents. And we finally did through adoption.
As a later in life Mom, I feel different. As an adoptive mom, I don’t feel like I belong with the other moms.
And as someone who challenges the ‘norms’ that society places on how women should be moms, well, again, none of this seemed like me.
So I decided to do something about it.
I’ve been observing moms in my practice for 13 years now as a Chiropractor. Yes, as a Chiropractor, I help these Moms and their families to feel and function better in their lives But we also have lots of conversations. And many moms have shared with me their Momma challenges that they often feel uncomfortable talking about.
And I listened. And listened. And listened.
And since becoming a Mom almost 4 years ago, I can now better connect with how they feel. I know how you feel.
Because I’m just like you. And you are just like me.
And I’m here to support you through this crazy, up and down, roller coaster ride of emotions and thoughts and uncertainties called Motherhood.
And our story has been in the news over the last year….
The story of how our second son, Kai, joined our family, was featured in our local paper, the St. Albert Gazette on a story on Open Adoption in September 2013. And more recently, the Edmonton Sun featured us in a full page spread entitled “Adoptive Parents Want to Break Down Stigmas” that you can read here.
What else are Mommas everywhere saying about how I have touched them and provided support and inspiration?
“Wow Karen, I have a huge lump in my throat after reading this tonight. You are such an amazing person. I am so glad that I had the chance to read this. I don’t really know what to say in the comments but that you are truly an amazing woman and mother. I admire you, even more now that I have read this and a few of your other posts.”-Jennifer
“I honor the truth, and you shared your truth. Thank you for being a brutally honest mom.”-Kelly
“Thank you Dr Karen for putting into words what so many of us moms feel.”-Sara
You are to alone. Let me help through this, Momma. I’m here for you.
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